Wednesday, July 25, 2007


You’re in every one of my favourite childhood memories
I can see your face clearly, right there, next to mine
Come to think of it, you were also there during my no-so-favourite times
Like the time when my mum shouted at us for taking all my clothes to school and giving them away
Or your sixth birthday when you had that party and we locked ourselves in your bedroom and refused to play with the other kids
Wow, we really were brats sometimes
Do you remember when you told your parents you were coming to my house
And I told my parents I was going to yours
And we both went to Ayo’s house because her parents would let us go to parties and stay out as late as we wanted?
And somehow, despite our meticulous planning, we got caught and your dad came to pick us up
I swear he thought it was my fault and I couldn’t look him in the face for months after.

I told you absolutely everything of any importance that happened to me
When my parents fought, when I fought with them
I wasn’t scared to tell you I was going out with Ali even though I knew you didn’t like him.
And you didn’t even gloat, not even for one moment when he dumped me for the most popular girl in school
I never ever resented the fact that all the boys liked you, and all the girls wanted to be friends with you
And you were so proud of me for always coming first in class despite never really trying
There was that brief phase in our second year of secondary school when we both made other friends and spent less and less time together
But that all ended when I told you that Iko and I were going out. You’d always said we were meant to be together
Just like that, we were once more a part of each other’s lives and it’s stayed the same since

I moved to England and you moved to the States and yet we wrote each other at least once a week
Do you remember when we started keeping diaries and we’d exchange them every few months so that we knew every detail of each other’s lives?
And later when I caught up to your computer literacy skills, we emailed all the time Nothing was too mundane to share with the other
Different lives, new friends, profound experiences, an ocean between us and still we remained so close
Even though we never got to share a lot of firsts together, you heard all of mine as soon as they happened.

I couldn’t be happier for myself than I am for you when something good happens to you
The words ‘I told you so’ have never ever left your mouth even though you have had plenty of opportunity to say them
I’ve prayed that you would have things that even I didn’t have. I wanted them for you more than I did for me
You’ve supported me through every decision I’ve ever made. Your one question always was ‘is this what you really want?’ Once I uttered the magic word, ‘yes’ then you were as loyal to my dreams as you were to yours.
I’ve cried every time you’ve cried
You celebrate everything that is good about me, and are always there to remind me when I’m in danger of forgetting

We’re still an ocean apart but you’ll always be my best friend
And I know I’m yours
I’ve recently found the love of my life, and you’ve got yours, as well as three little ones
But I maintain that you’re my soul mate
How lucky I am to have found you so young and to have shared so much with you

Friday, July 13, 2007

A Bit of This and That ...

I've got so much stuff going on in my head but I just can't write! I start writing and then lose steam halfway through, or I think of something that I desperately want to get down on paper, I start writing it down and suddenly it just seems so trivial and not worth actually expressing.

I've been in a weird mood lately, kind of like a funk and it's strange because I'm not normally like this but I guess a lot of stuff is getting to me all at the same time, mainly friends and work. So here's the thing about me, I have A LOT of flaws but I'm not at all selfish and I'm not at all self absorbed. Ironically, or maybe it's just the laws of attraction, my friends tend to be pretty selfish and especially self absorbed and it can be so exhausting at times. Some of them know it and I'm comfortable enough with them that I can bring it to their attention if they do something that gets to me, but recently, an old friend has come back into my life, one who can be extremely lovely but is also pretty selfish and remarkably self absorbed. My dilemma with her is 'do I give her a chance, put up with the stuff that bothers me because on the whole she's a nice girl? Or do I nip this re-newed friendship in the bud knowing that chances are, we won’t be friends this time next year because at some point, I became so exasperated with her selfishness that I ended our friendship. Surely it'll be easier for both of us if we stop getting closer now, and just become 'hi' ... 'hi' friends?

On a more upbeat note, I have met, seen and hung out with a lot of fellow bloggers and commentators recently! Favoured Girl, Chica Africana and I are now facebook friends. I discovered that Biodun and I went to school together and she's hidden it from me this entire time. T.Minx, LB, Last King of Scotland, Low, Fine Boy, commentator Dimples and I were all at Olawunmi's 30th Birthday party which was so much fun. And then Low, Noni and I went to get Nigerian food the following day ... the best pounded yam and Okro soup I have ever eaten! And the meat was so well cooked, I could even cut the pomo and shaki with a fork and knife.

I've been feeling like I need to get away from everything for a while but unfortunately my next holiday isn't till September when I go to Greece for 10 days with Noni and Onada, if she gets her act together and applies for a visa. Oh that reminds me, I need to send her an invitation letter. If I could go anywhere now, it'd be a toss up between Hawaii and Manhattan. Actually, the way I'm feeling now, it would have to be Hawaii ... sea, sun and surf lessons complete cute surf instructor would definitely lift my mood ;p

Finally .... Okay, don't make a big deal out of this you guys, but for the first time in a really long time, I think maybe, just maybe, it would be nice to have someone ... like a boyfriend. Now don't get excited, I'm not going to go out looking for one, but lets just say I'm open to the possibility.

I promise I'll try and blog properly next week.

Have a great weekend!!

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

... I'll be right back

Hey, I haven't gone awol like some bloggers I can mention ... I just haven't written in a while but I will soon, I promise!

In the meantime, check out my lovely cousin's blog -
She is an amazing writer and also pretty damn good photographer; to be honest if we weren't family, I might just have disowned her by now because she's just too talented, I'm worried she makes me look bad! Lol.